Time Travelling Through the Internet
Can we collectively agree as writers - whether professionally, in fanfiction, or just roleplaying - to stop using Rape and Abuse as plot devices?

Having read both ‘Lucky’ and ‘the Lovely Bones’ I realise that writing about these subjects can be a good thing - whether that’s for lifting taboos on victim experiences, debunking victim blaming, or simply giving a victim assurance that they are not alone -

HOWEVER, I find it worrying, almost gross, that the use of rape and abuse is so casual in fandoms.  Tumblr is a great place (sometimes) and we all generally rally against Rape Culture and Victim Blaming, but this gesture is so fucking hollow if you go ahead and write a multi-chaptered graphic series only about Jim Moriarty raping an underage character.

"Oh but he’s evil, he’d do that!" - yes, people commit crimes, but examine the way it’s written.

- is the attack overly explicit to the point of eroticism?

- is it written so that the victim ends up enjoying themselves? (there is a place for dub-con, namely grounded in ‘this is a kink and most definitely a fantasy’.)

- does the abuse or rape make up the majority of your work?

If the answer to any of these is yes, well done!  Your writing is problematic.

And I’m not out to kink shame, God no, just use your kinks responsibly.  I know it’s on the internet and “isn’t hurting anyone” but recall Tumblr’s reaction to 50 Shades of Grey?  That is a terrible representation of the BDSM kink and the misinformation it spreads is dangerous for any reader who uses it as a step-by-step guide for BDSM or sex and relationships in general.

Don’t let your work be like that.

Stop faking your fucking orgasms. Society already tells young men that they run the fucking universe - if they can’t turn your cunt into a shooting star then for god’s sake, let them know about it.

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anonymousnerdgirl:

godstilldontlikeugly:

lindsaychrist:

jollymermaid:

qveenly:

twelve-thirteen-eleven:

Look at her phone omg

The shoes tho

i loved the 90s

cadet kelly premiered in 2002

everyone knows the 90s didn’t end until about 2004

Reblogging for accuracy of the last comment.

anonymousnerdgirl:

godstilldontlikeugly:

lindsaychrist:

jollymermaid:

qveenly:

twelve-thirteen-eleven:

Look at her phone omg

The shoes tho

i loved the 90s

cadet kelly premiered in 2002

everyone knows the 90s didn’t end until about 2004

Reblogging for accuracy of the last comment.

You Cannot Rest Here

feelinranty:

meeplol:

Have you ever played a video game where you have to sleep to recover? They only let you do it if everything is safe. Otherwise they won’t let you sleep. You’ll get a message, saying “You cannot sleep now, there are monsters nearby.”

Now, remember the last time you just couldn’t get to sleep?

I do.

Don’t you fuckin do this to me

ruffiansonships:

This was the greatest moment ever.

rupeerose:

teafortrouble:

megg33k:

I need feminism because most men’s restrooms still aren’t equipped with baby changing stations. As someone who was married to a man who had sole custody of his young son, I’m hyperaware that feminism means EQUALITY, not female superiority. Feminism should and does support a man’s right to be as much of a parent to his child(ren) as any mother is allowed/expected to be.

This is a constant problem for Mr. Tea and myself. We’ve got twins, so even though I can change one kid on the change table in the ladies’ room, he’s left standing sort of awkwardly in the lobby with a messy child while I change one, come back, and get the other.

Nobody’s suggesting that men aren’t parents, so the lack of change tables goes well beyond ‘gender role reinforcing’ and straight into ‘ridiculous’.

My dad actually almost got kicked out of a mall once for changing my brother in the womens room of a mall. The only reason they didn’t call the cops on him was because the ladies in the room supported him.

jellybeez:

siderealsandman:

castielscheesecake:

ay-dougie:

voting against gay marriage is like ordering a piece of cake at a restaurant and having a complete stranger be like “waiter, cancel that cake”

"waiter cancel that cake it’s ruining my cake and i don’t know how to explain it to my children"

"my dietbook said I can’t have cake so throw that guy’s cake away too."

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poemsofthequiet:

blackbanshee:

Seven week old puppies playing with mommy.

mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! mom! 

this is the best thing ever

For over a decade, Americans have been told that terrorism poses a threat that cannot be addressed by the existing legal system; that a new domain of law must be constructed to handle this new threat. What has actually been created is a new domain of pseudo-law where the roles of law making, law enforcement, and judiciary, are rolled into a single political authority. Even if there has been no coup d’etat, nor extended imposition of martial law, this is nonetheless the dawning of an insidious and piecemeal form of fascism. It does not impose itself with an iron fist but grows upon us slowly, so that painlessly freedom can be lost as it is gradually forgotten.
America’s willingness to be terrified by terrorism (via theamericanbear)

We are the frog, and the water’s getting pretty fucking hot, wouldn’t you say?

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